A podcast question recently hit me hard: "Would you give up non-monogamy for the right person?" It made me revisit a promise I made to my ex—that I could be monogamous just for him. At the time, it felt like a loving sacrifice, but looking back, I wonder if I was just bargaining away a core part of myself to keep the relationship afloat. The truth is, I tried. I really did. But suppressing my desi…
When my partner first brought up opening our relationship, my immediate reaction was fear—fear of losing him if I said no. So I agreed, hoping it would keep him close. But what I didn’t realize was that by ignoring my own boundaries, I was slowly losing myself in the process. It’s a strange thing, trading your comfort for someone else’s desires. I thought saying yes would make him stay, but it onl…
It’s a conversation that can catch anyone off guard: your wife brings up swinging, and suddenly you’re staring at a mental image of a playground you never asked to enter. For a lot of people, the immediate reaction is a mix of shock, curiosity, and discomfort. You might feel like you’re being asked to climb onto a merry-go-round that’s spinning way too fast, while you’re still trying to find your…
Ever notice how some people lean on the word 'love' to justify stepping all over boundaries? In the swinging and open relationship world, we talk a lot about consent and respect, but sometimes real feelings get tangled up with not-so-healthy behavior. The idea that a romantic connection automatically excuses hurting others is a thorn we should all be aware of. True care for your partners—whether p…