The Fine Art of Cunnilingus (For Men Only)
In
all matters of making love to a woman, it's especially effective
to tease and tantalize her, allowing her arousal to build.
Men
generally get aroused with little or no help. It usually
takes a lot more for a woman. Always be sure you have a
really close shave. Whiskers on her clitoris can cause her
to lose her arousal, just like teeth on your penis.
Most
women really need lots of passionate kisses. Kissing is
the most intimate thing two people can do because it's not
just body parts and sensations but a connection of souls.
Women enjoy making love when that connection is felt.
After
kissing a while, move to her neck and very slowly, continue
working your way down, kissing her breasts, her belly, the
inside of her thighs, the back of her knees, the inside
of her lower legs, her feet... even suck and lick her toes.
Take your time, remember, you're teasing her to build up
the feelings of wanting you. Now, when you get to her "triangle
of light," (her pubic area) what is called her "yoni"
in Sanscrit, touch and kiss her all around it but don't
touch it except occasionally brushing across her clitoris
and labia by "accident." The goal is to make her
crazy with wanting you to "get on with it." (By
the way, this works fabulously well for any kind of lovemaking,
not just oral sex.)
With
an extremely light touch inside the thighs and anywhere
she lets you know she likes it tickle her with your fingertips.
If she doesn't say it in words she'll tell you with wiggles
or moans of pleasure.
Now
the fun begins. Begin to kiss and lick her clitoris. Explore
her amazing woman-parts. Occasionally move away and kiss
and lick her thighs. Moving back to her yoni, use your tongue
to investigate and pleasure her in every possible place.
Her wiggles and moans will tell you you're doing it just
right.
Take
mental notes for the next time. When most women are getting
close to orgasm, they need a fairly constant stimulation
of their clitoris, sometimes for several minutes. When she's
totally lost in what you've been doing, take her clitoris
in your mouth, sucking ever so gently and flicking your
tongue back and forth. If you keep that going, she'll explode
in a rapture she's never experienced before.
For
some women, this works really well. While she's getting
closer to coming, but not there yet, stop stimulating her
clitoris and kiss her belly, labia, thighs... then when
you go back to her clitoris, it will be even more intense
and make her come bigger and quicker.
Some
women may scream, "DON'T STOP!!!" which I don't
need to explain.
Copyright
© MMIII - Kara Oh. Reprinted with permission. Kara
Oh, is a motivational speaker, author, web site maven, advice
columnist, wife, mother of grown children and Ibu to her
7 year old grandson. In her book, "Men Made Easy,"
Kara reveals twelve essential secrets that every woman needs
to know so she can counter the odds of our 50% divorce rate.
AliveWithLove.com.
Book resource: Oral Caress
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