The problem of jealousy
should be dealt with before a couple becomes involved in the
swinging world. Open communication
about each partner's feelings is important. You should talk
about what is and what is not acceptable to each other.
For example, Kelli and Joe were an unusually attractive
couple but Kelli was very insecure. She enjoyed swinging
with both men and women but insisted that Joe be in the
same room with her when he was having sex. Kelli was afraid
that Joe would fall in love with one of his swinging partners.
As long as Joe agreed to go along with her wishes, they
remained a very popular couple and Kelli's jealousy was
kept under control.
Most people never experience their fantasies or even discuss
them with their partners for fear of being laughed at or
being criticized. When each partner gets to live out his
or her fantasy, this cuts down the feelings of jealousy
Sean's fantasy was to go into a bar with his wife Patti
and have her pick out a man she found appealing. Sean would
approach the man and invite him to have a drink with them.
Patti would come on to the man and Sean would ask him if
he would like to have sex with his wife.
They would then get into Sean's large and luxurious Lincoln
Town Car. Sean would drive and Patti and the man would
have sex in the back seat. This worked out very well for
both of them. And for the stranger as Patti is a very attractive
and well-built woman!
Consequently, what is acceptable to one person or couple might
be disastrous to others. Talk about your fantasies and when you
find one or more that turns on each one of you, go for it!